february 12. 2009
Poison. We see the warning signs, a skull with crossbones, warning labels, and so forth. We can tell that we need to be cautious in using a product, or not to use a product at all. But what about people? How can you tell if someone could be poisonous to your health?

Even though I’m in my early 30’s, I am still learning a lot about relationships, be they friends, family, or whatever. I guess I was never taught a lot about boundaries, and have had to learn those for myself.

Recently, the lesson learned is about learning who is toxic, and should be kept at a distance. That’s not to say you don’t say “Hi” or aren’t friendly, you just don’t create anything more.

I’m definitely a person that expresses my feelings, you know how I feel. I’m probably way more trusting in the beginning than most people deserve. I don’t like munipulation, lying, and mind games. In fact, that’s something I don’t tolerate, and yet, I was so deceived. I didn’t realize this person was munipulative, and playing me and all others, until some puzzle pieces started falling together. The Spirit tried to tell me early on, and I didn’t listen. I kept somewhat of a distance, and it got to be a bit looser of a relationship, but still, confided and trusted when I should have walked away in the very beginning. This person would tell me negative things that others were saying about myself in the very beginning of our friendship, that should have been my first sign to RUN. Yet, for some reason, common sense parted from me.

After reflecting as to why I enter into friendships like this, it has happened before, and of course, it leads back to childhood. Now that that has been established, noticed, acknowledged, and noted, all new friendships will be with those that are NOT toxic.

You know what I mean by toxic.

We wouldn’t let someone treat our children that way, why should you let someone treat you that way? Protect yourself, just as much as you would your children.

My girls, when you read this, don’t make friends with people who try and pull you down, talk bad about you, lie about you, munipulate you, use you, and aren’t there to be supportive, positive, kind, trustworthy, and sincerely caring. Always listen with the Spirit, He will guide you, if you listen.

I love this saying, I hope you will remember it: A wise man learns from his mistakes; a wiser man learns from other people’s mistakes. Learn from lessons that I’m learning from, that way you won’t have to go through them yourselves.